The Insider’s Guide to narcissistic personality disorder

The insider's guide to narcissistic personality disorder

What is a narcissist? What is narcissistic personality disorder?

A general summary of what narcissistic personality disorder is, does not justify what a truly horrifying and harrowing Cluster B personality type ever to have the misfortune for any human being to come into contact with.

Why evolution has not rightly taken over and obliterated this trait out of existence is a real mystery to me. You are probably wondering why am I so harsh. Well unlike any other personality type this one is the hardest to understand because no one goes to the doctor and says ‘ I am a narcissist, please cure me of my ailment’. It is not a label that people who have got it care to admit that they have any problems with it.

Narcissism is when a person has strong feelings of importance and wants everyone else to know that they have been born with a special gift. At the same time, they have an unbelievable self-loathing and intense self-hatred and insecurity.

They do believe they are just bags of meat that need to eat, drink and shit. That’s it. And they think that everyone in the whole world is a bag of meat too, so they are just not that special, why are they even alive? But not them they are the chosen ones they are the extraordinary people with magical powers.

But, there lies the problem. Their two personalities are continually fighting with each other. And if anyone realises, or spots that they are just a bag of meat, then they are fair game for a fight. ‘I mean How dare they?’ You have unknowingly declared world war III. Because they will defend their other self to the hilt and at any cost.

Ten brief Examples Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

What are the symptoms of a narcissistic person?


  • Everything about a rational person disgusts them.
  • Narcissists have no empathy.
  • They love to manipulate others to make gains for themselves.
  • Narcissists love dropping bad news on you and enjoy watching you suffer.
  • They are remarkably sensitive to criticism; they can dole it out alright, all day every day, but to receive it? Your pure evil.
  • They receive their power source by emotional abusing you.
  • Narcissists are continually reading into anything you say and see it as a double meaning that only they can work out.
  • They charm you to get you on their side, other people have written about a term called ‘love bombing’. I like to call it the special treatment. ‘You’re so extraordinary and incredible and magnificent’ this is all within five mins of meeting them and having a conversation.
  • They are the authority, they are above the law, they were born with special privileges. Everyone bow and know your place peasants.
  • They do not comprehend the meaning of what a boundary is.
  • Narcissists have a complete disrespect for anybody’s thoughts and feelings. As far as they are concerned, you not only think crap, but you talk crap too!

Is narcissism a mental disorder?

The answer to this question is an emphatic yes. According to Mayo, it is classed as a mental disorder and here is the definition that is taken from their website.

“Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.

A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. You may be generally unhappy and disappointed when you’re not given the special favours or admiration you believe you deserve. Others may not enjoy being around you, and you may find your relationships unfulfilling.”

Narcissistic personality disorder causes.

Nobody knows for sure what exactly causes narcissistic personality disorder, but several key factors come into play. Either the child has been born and has had lavish love and praise heaped onto it, or the child is rejected by the parents at an early age then had to fight to do things to get itself noticed and liked by the parent.

So the golden child was born, the conditions were perfect for the narcissistic parent. There was no abnormalities and childbirth, and labour was perfect. The baby was born beautiful, and from the very beginning the narcissistic parent loved and cherished the child and lapped up any adoration given from friends, neighbours and strangers, reinforcing what the narcissistic parent thought anyway. This child was the gift from the gods themselves. Don’t get me wrong, though; this child received the same criticism that the other kids received but were able to cope with the criticism that bit better knowing they were the chosen one. And then they grow up, and their narcissism gets bigger with them.

This child was the gift from the gods themselves. Don’t get me wrong, though; this child received the same criticism that the other kids received but were able to cope with the criticism that bit better knowing they were the chosen one. And then they grow up, and their narcissism gets bigger with them.

The rejected child can go one of two ways. They try and suck up to the narcissistic parent and become their minion, so they will become just like their parents and join in with name calling, mocking behaviour or just plain making up lies. 

Or they are born with empathy, and from when the child can think independently they form their own minds and have their varying different opinions. This child will inevitably be the scapegoat. Because it has an independent mind and it can see right from wrong, and it doesn’t like being treated poorly. Or see others treated sadistically. The narcissistic parent will pick up on this from when the child is still very young and will treat the kid accordingly. So anything that goes wrong can be blamed on this child and from an early age can feel like the odd one out. Always treated like the loner and made to feel like they don’t have any friends. Or even any family.

The insider's guide to narcissistic personality disorder

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Jennifer Harry's goal is to help as many people as she possibly can by offering insights into other people relationships, looking at personality, horoscopes and Tarot. She is a recovering from narcissistic abuse and will be discussing the actions of individuals, why they do what they do, or say what they say when times get tough.